"Love means that you accept a person with all their failures, stupidities, ugly points, and nonetheless you see perfection in imperfection itself."
Zizek
I believe that the person is perfect and that it is some of our behaviours which are imperfect, but luckily for we can change behaviours but we can not change us as whole. I am a very strong believer that our behaviours and us, as a person, are very different things. Lets explain this further we could say to a child that they are silly, or we can say that the child behaved in silly way. The last statement enables the child to love them self as whole but change the silly behaviour.
"Love the person, Dislike the behavior"This quote is so powerful and I believe that you as a person is whole perfect and complete and can love and accept yourself in the fullest. And seeing as we spend 24 hours every day with our self loving and accepting our self exactly as we are makes sense.
At this point if you have behaviours you dislike, be grateful and thankful for them for getting you to this point. A point where you love and accept yourself enough to making yourself the best you can be by changing your behaviours. In Buddhism they do not have a word for guilt, they see guilt as pointless. Love and accept that something in the past was done incorrectly but pledge with love, acceptance and kindness to yourself that in the future you would do it (behave) differently. Can you see the difference? Guilt is pointless it is just a way to beat ourselves up and stay stuck in the past. Loving and Accepting exactly where you are gives you a base to adapt your behaviour to make the future exactly as you would like it to be. The power is in the now.
So I love and accept you exactly as you are are, and now I hope you do too. By accepting yourself as you are now gives you a fantastic base to work from to lose weight
Kind regards
Mindful Mark
p.s If you would like to learn more way to love and accept yourself please read 'You can heal your life' by Louise L Hay
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